I don't have any news about what's up with Sung. But I can share what I discussed with my friend this weekend over a hot pot and Karaoke. She has been my very good friend since before I came to know Sung. That's a fairy long time. She knows almost everything about what I've been through since I moved in Maryland in early 2000's. So, I'd better listen to her well when she shared her feedback about what I said.
She knows that I've been into Sung for 10+ years. But it's pretty obvious for everyone that Sung is an actor and I am just a fan. She was surprised when I said "Sung is my best friend." Well, I know, that's probably not accurate. And I wasn't offended when she denied my statement. And I did not argue with her about her feedback. But I also know that I don't have to give up on the idea that Sung and I are connected somehow.
What she explained to me is that "best friends" have to be someone you can text any time you want, and get a response in reasonable timing. Of course, these days, we have many way to send our "love" to any actor or some kind of celebrity. I can DM Sung somehow in such way that Sung will see my message. But that does not make me as his best friend.
I think of my other friends whom I haven't even contacted for more than 20 years. I still cherish all the memories I have with them and I am so sure that when we get together again someday, we treat each other as our best friends. Or at very least, I have a very good feeling about them and even though I have no idea about what happened to them since I last saw them in person and no way to contact them now, I will consider them as my friends.
I suppose what my friend wanted to remind me is that Sung is an actor. If I talk about him as my "friend," I look silly. I'm not a teenager any more.
Confirming if you are a friend of someone's or not could be tricky even among non-celebrity people. There is no official document to register a "friend." You can "friend" or "unfriend" someone via SNS like Facebook. But that does not mean much for many people. Just because the person accepted your "friend request" does not mean you are actually considered as a friend. Well, that's what it is. We don't have to feel good or bad about that.
To be honest, I'm very bad at remembering people's name. For me, Facebook is a saver of my memory-challenge. So, if the person really think I'm his or her friend is not that important. Also, someone I know block me somehow, I don't really care. If we start thinking about it, it could go anywhere. Well, typically, I get "accepted" when I send a friend request. But how much is being actually shared is unknown.
Actually, this discussion was not only about Sung and me. I also talked about other "friends" who may not be actually friends. I seem to have a lot of imaginary friends. Well, they are real. But they ma not consider me as their friends. It's true that I don't "hang out" with them very often or almost not at all.
There are people who still ask me about a "house-warming party," that I once mentioned when I moved in my current house. That is already almost 5 years ago. But it never happened for some reasons. But I'm thinking... perhaps, I finally throw the party sometime this year, so I can see how many people actually show up. In worst case, I can extend my invitation to our neighbors to scavenge left-over foods.
