Thursday, December 10, 2009

Thank you for sharing, Sung

http://youoffendmeyouoffendmyfamily.com/around-the-horn/

Before I start talking about what Sung wrong and what I think about it, let me quickly explain why it took me some time to update this blog. I normally update this blog at least once a week. But I had 4-hour surgery on my belly resulting 2 nights hospitalization and 4 pucks of blood transfusion. Well, it was actually a scheduled one since a while ago and I'm getting better now. But I'm still resting at home at the moment. So, that's why I had to pause for a while.

Regarding what Sung wrote recently, first of all, I admire his courage sharing this whole story with his readers. It is not easy to trust people -- especially those online anonymous people who may quote your words with negative intention. (Hope what I'm doing here is not one of such deed.) But the fact he did probably indicates that he has somehow gotten over with it.

Just like many folks who left their comments to Sung's post, I'm also not the one who is in the position of giving any sort of advice. (Probably nobody is). But honestly, the first thought popped up to me is this -- I want to see his biological father. Maybe it is not too surprising idea because I'm a big fan of Sung's. I'm just curious to see how his father looks like even though he did not mean anything to Sung in their lives. I do want to send a flower to him just to let him know that I thank him for existing and made Sung possible to exist this world. I just want him to feel proud of Sung and feel lucky that he deserves a bouquet or some sort just because he is Sung's biological father.

This actually reminded me about my hubby's side family story. Well, it is not the same story, but have something in common. I've never seen my husband talking to his father since I met him about 9 years ago. Well, correction. I did see him talking a few words over the phone -- something very administrative --, but that's about it. They haven't seen each other for more than 10 years. But funny thing is, I've seen him many times in person. I visited him many times in Korea -- probably total around 10 times. I often exchange email messages with him. My father-in-law and me are like best friends. But I never ask why they don't talk each other. Well, maybe I asked something like that, but neither side of them gives me any answer anyway. It seems that they both know that they don't have to talk or see each other. I tried finding what is the best of them -- or for the whole family including me. But there is no answer. All I know is that my father-in-law and I have a pretty good relationship while my husband and his father never talk.

So, I suppose every father-and-son realtionship is unique. It's ok if you decided not to talk. But if someone else decided to talk to that person and there is something they can share, then, that's good, too.

3 comments:

Lindey said...

Hi Mari I hope you are doing well. I've read about Sung's blog and I think his situation is worse then mine.

My mom and dad are in the hospital. My mom had two minor strokes because we find out couple of months ago he had prostate cancer and my dad is in the hospital, well, of the prostate cancer.

So when a parent are not doing well you relly don't know what to do except to pray. And it's really hard.

But thanks for the update and I hope you make a good recovery.

ak1998 said...

sorry for my slow response, Lindey. Sorry to hear that you are having a very hard time. Hope your parents get better very soon.

I'm getting better but haven't gotten back to work yet. I'll be back after Christmas weekend.

Hope you have a good holiday season.

Lindey said...

Hi Mari thanks for your feedback. I just wanted to say Merry Christmas and happy new year.

Can't wait to see what you bring us in 2010.

Enjoy your holiday season.

Lindey